The FIFO Life as a Couple: How to Make It Work

FIFO work can be a huge opportunity—but it can also be a huge challenge for relationships. Time apart, shifting routines, and emotional distance can put strain on even the strongest couples. But with the right strategies, FIFO life can actually strengthen your relationship.

Understand the Challenge

• Physical Distance – Days or weeks apart can feel like a disconnect.
• Lifestyle Differences – One of you is on 12-hour shifts, the other is managing the home.
• Routine Misalignment – Days off don’t always line up with real life.
• Communication Gaps – Without daily check-ins, small issues can grow big fast.

What Healthy FIFO Couples Do Differently

1. Communicate with Intention

Set a regular time to talk each day—even just 5 minutes. Be open, not just about your day but about how you’re coping.

2. Plan Quality Time on R&R

Don’t overpack your break with chores or social events. Block time just for each other.

3. Set Shared Goals

Whether it’s saving for a house or planning a trip, having something you’re both working towards creates connection—even from a distance.

4. Acknowledge the Hard Days

Not every day will feel great. That’s normal. Talk about the tough stuff before resentment builds.

5. Use the Tools

• Shared calendars
• Video calls
• Audio messages
• Notes in luggage
• Countdown apps
  

Sometimes the little things matter most.

Tips for the Partner at Home

• Build your own routine—don’t just wait around.
• Stay social and supported.
• Don’t hide stress to “protect” the FIFO partner.
• Make space for decompression when they get home.

Tips for the FIFO Partner

• Check in even if you’re exhausted.
• Don’t expect to “take over” or “be off duty” the moment you get home.
• Say thank you—often.

FIFO life isn’t easy, but it’s not impossible. With effort, honesty, and consistency, couples don’t just survive FIFO—they thrive in it.